I enjoy doing what I do because I unleash a part of myself that I wouldn’t normally acknowledge, while also still satisfying my need to have fulfilling interactions that are not just surface and superficial.
Most people want to be submissive because it is a sexual fantasy or they realize it opens them up to feel free. But the freedom scares them so they do not embrace it. In cases like this it is very limiting for the dominant to operate.
I am not sadistic or mean just for the hell of it. I do not wish to hurt my subs or demean them. I wish only to understand them and their desires and it turns me on to be able to meet those desires.
It may not be overly dominant to not just impose my will upon them but to me dominance is not blindly following orders and forcing someone into something they SAY they want.
Dominance in my mind is all about a give and take. A deeper respect and understanding of the people around you and what they need from you. Needs are not always wants. And in these cases it takes a while to be comfortable within any situation and not many are willing to be so exposed.